Back from Vegas!

What up Detroit playaz,

To re-cap, I flew to Vegas with a local friend (rayza) is his name! The man has extreme game, natural game that is! For those of you that know me, you’ll always hear me talk about having a life or getting a life, having ambitions and goals! I don’t care how many routines you know, how many canned openers you learn, or how many cold reads you can throw at women, without a promising career or real goals in life, you will have ZERO quality women in your life! Enough said!

We also met up with Priest, another great friend of mine from Texas, we met about 2 years ago at a Mystery workshop, and have been close ever since. In fact, as I grow my community, I will have Priest visit and have a Lair talk. Also, as a gift to the Detroit scene, I will be flying up some big hitters, guys you may have all heard about. Not going to mention names now, but you may have read about them in the book called the GAME by Neil Strauss. They also have a solid presence in Mystery’s Forum.

My trip was educational. It helped me better understand that not one method is better than another method. It comes down to each individual and how he presents himself. What may work for me, may not work for you. However, just like golf or any other sport, there is many different types swings, but at the point of connection or impact they are all have the same characteristics. Same with game, we all have different approaches to this, but all true masters have the same thing in common! Do you know what that is? Drop me a line at Alexanders.lifeskills@gmail.com for your answer!

OK, back to my Vegas trip…Where do I start, all I can say there was too much drugs, gambling, drinking, smoking, staying up late, and most of all, too many crazy women!

We had different women in our suit every nite of our stay. We had the girl next door type, we had models, we have shy ones, we had freaks, and we even had Vegas’s best hookers…it was f-ing amazing!

I want to thank all of you that have sent me emails regarding you sticking points. Please be patient I will get to everyone, I live for this stuff. It makes me work harder at understanding how I can best deliver quality information that can actually make your life easier!

On that note, it’s Friday and I’m going out! Keep in touch and I look forward to working with those that have contacted me. Keep em coming, it will only get better!

Alex~

Ps…if anyone has a sticking point you would like me to address on this blog, drop me a note in the comment section of this post! Or simply email me and I will answer your question for everyone to read and hopefully learn from!

Las Vegas Super Conference

So……….

Sitting here all f-ing tired and mentally exhausted. My social life is defiantly not the norm. Shit, I probably hang out 4-5 nites a week, I don’t drink and party it up each time, but staying up late and getting up early for work is for the birds. Fortunately, I have a promising career and I see the rainbow at the end of the rain…however, I wish it would stop f-ing raining already... lol…

Just going over last minute shit with Priest (for you Detroit boys, Priest is a great friend of mine I met while attending a Mystery Bootcamp almost two years ago. Priest and I stayed in touch since then and he has proven to not only to be a guy with tight skills, but he has proven to be an excellent friend and person!

Brother Priest.....Vegas here we come!

Priest and I will be staying in a 3,000 square foot Hotel Penthouse at the Bellagio, yes you read right, 3k Penthouse…F-ing Mack Daddy!

OK, our game plan…Simple…visit the conference, meet the big names in the community…Spend each nite popping bottles with models….Whole lot of f-ing! Hmmm, don't you threaten me with a good time...lol...

Shit, while we’re there, I might just try out my stripper game, correction, I WILL be running stripper game! However, I’ve been going to Vegas every year if not every other year for the last 10 years…Stripper in Vegas are there to work, not saying its not possible, it just takes skill and correct timing! If you catch a stripper that has made her quota for the week or weekend, you’re in, assuming you’ve run proper attraction game and you better have something fun lined up, because these bitches are used to the good life! Drugs or a Penthouse suite usually does the trick~!

Until next time…Rock out with your cock out!

Peace!

Detroit Lair Talk complete with A “Naturals” drama!

Hey guys, hope all is well in PU land!

To all the people that attended the Detroit Lair Talk this past Saturday, I want to personally thank each of you for attending. I had a blast talking to all of you! It is my intention to help as much as I can. I am committed to providing the most up to date techniques and strategies out there! Believe me when I say, I want all of you to become better men, not only in pick up but in your daily lives! Stay tuned to my blog and schedule, as I will be announcing shortly my up-coming boot camp! This is sure to be a weekend you will not want to miss!

I have attached some pics. I also have video footage of the talk, once I get it back, I will post it here!

As promised, all you have to do is send me an email at alexanders.lifeskills@gmail.com Let me know that you attended, and I will give you a 20 minute free phone consultation with whatever sticking point you may have! (Please be patient, I am getting lots of requests, however, as promised, I WILL GET TO EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU)!!

So, my big debut went off with-out any problems! The feed back I received was excellent… my talk was entertaining and more importantly informative! I believe the live demo I did with my beautiful assistant will help many beginners understand the correct way to approach women of beauty and quality! I spoke about frames…sexual frames…force framing…cold reads…sub-communications…and one of my favorites, styles…
For those of you that may have thought my talk was a little advanced, I will stick to one topic next time around. I was advised that some of the Frame talk was a little over some peoples skill level. What a great motivator to give me a call and let me explain what you may have missed!

The amount of questions (quality questions) asked after my talk made me realize the apatite you all have in regards to social dynamics! Its very inspiring, this will make me work harder for all of you!

Now, for the drama most of you missed and for those of you who would like to hear what some “naturals” with big egos deal with when there set/s goes wrong, really wrong…Read on… :)

Some of the friends I spend time with outside of the community are what I consider or even what most consider being a “Natural”. Let me first explain my definition of a “Natural”. Goes something like this:
Always had women in his life.
Dating women came easy to them.
Understood (mostly on a sub-conscience level) how to make women laugh.
Understood that being needy or to aggressive or over confident would turn-off the ladies.
Good looks, dress well, and generally have money and/or a life!
Have an extensive social circle.
Very outgoing.

During my talk, my friend (John) was at the hotel lobby gaming a rather large mixed set. Turns out there were all part of a dance company from New York performing at one of the theaters in downtown Detroit (who says Detroit has no culture)?

He decided to bring her into the Lair Talk (which I apologize to everyone there) apparently he thought he was showing off! Fortunately, I was just getting done and they missed the entire thing (yea, nice friend I have, jerk).

When it was all said and done, I met him and my hottie at the lobby bar, which I confronted him on his behavior. He had a small attitude, but my frame was unshakeable that nite, I was flying high after my talk, feeling real good!

Meanwhile he had created all kinds of attraction with the two HB he managed to pull. When I had rolled up, they were totally intrigued with what I was doing and teaching. I gave them the shortest version possible (for now) and moved on with “let’s all grab a bite”

Now, I am going to fast-forward about an hour after meeting them. John, me, my-girl and two New York dancers head over across the street to one of my favorite strip-clubs! I was impressed that they wanted to go, and in fact, they also wanted to dance. I tried to get them a spot, but the manager said they need a stripper card or they would be fined! Oh well, I tried…At least they wanted to get naked!

Now, I understand the situation much better than my natural friend. I could tell what thier body language was saying, I knew they were having fun, and I could tell we had made them feel safe! We accomplished this thru major social proof, I know everyone at this hotel. I had a beautiful girl on my arm to begin with, and we had bounced them around the hotel and casino. At this point, all we had to do was not fuck it up!

John had dropped earlier “I am going to fuck you tonite”bomb to one of the girls! Once he had said it, I looked right at her to gage her reaction, and I could totally see it was on! He followed it by saying “oh I’m just kidding”…I tell him in front of the girls, “never say your kidding about such statements, as I wink and kino the hottie…Everyone laughed! John pipes up and says “was that from your lecture…ha ha ha” He was obviously trying to be funny or cute; actually he was annoying the FUCK out of me with his little jokes about the community. I kept telling him its low status to dog on your friends no matter what, and that the girls could tell he was being a little try hard…Of course that shit went in one ear and out the other ear!

We bounce to the stip club...

We are all sitting in the booth; it was a tight fit… My girl is all about 3-ways (I have not actually have gotten into one with her as of yet, but what a perfect opportunity)!

I could see he was getting drunk and his flare and charm or whatever was wearing off, as he had no other material to move forward with besides bragging about himself and/or dogging on “the community”… I once again pull him aside and say…”let me handle this, if we want to go back to there room, let me seed the bounce, JUST LET ME HANDLE it idiot, you’re getting drunk and you are not making any sense, you haven’t escalated correctly and if you were not a good looking guy you would have been blow out by now” And I was totally right, 100% correct, no question about it, NONE! And here’s why:

John to New York Dancer – hey babe, I like you, we should see each other!
NYD – what are you talking about? I already told you, I don’t live here and I fly out tomorrow!
John: Well, I like you and that’s why I bought you drinks and yada yada yada!
Me: I am thinking in my head “duuuuude, OMG you are totally fucking this up!
NYD – what? Just because you bought me a drink and invited us to hang with Alexander and his girl, I owe you something?
John: I want you, I want to kiss you, and I think he said something to the effect of wanting to have sex with her, for a second time, however this time, the tone was nothing like it was a couple hours ago…
NYD - I am not going to have sex with you, why are you being so aggressive and making us feel like we owe you something?
John – Yelling at her…”I am not aggressive, you’re crazy, what’s the matter with you”…on an on, until she almost started crying and got scared!

CAN YOU SAY F-ING IDOIT? I hope I don’t have to explain why you never want to behave like our friend John is behaving!

At this point, I pull him aside yet again, and I flat out say “have you lost your fucking mind”? Why are you fighting with these girls? Dude, it’s not her fault she called you aggressive…”Dude, you are being too much of a needy jerk, you’re drunk”!

I grab the attention of my girl and wink at her to smooth things over while I’m talking to John…I mean for the lov of anything holy, my girl is getting pissed to, because she wants to bounce to there hotel room as well! Think about it, it’s not funny anymore, it’s now getting stupid…two guys with THREE sexy ass women, and he’s f-ing the whole thing up, FOR ALL OF US!

He now starts blaming me for all of this????!!!?? The day before John and I were talking about a friend of ours and how he is able to pull all kinds of sexy momma’s with his aggressive style, he mis-understood what I was saying at the time and brought it back to me and my style of teaching? Basically he was making no sense. So now half the club is looking at him pointing his finger in my face and arguing with me= LOSERS! That’s how we must have looked like, complete idiots!
I could tell he was a little embarrassed and just didn’t know how to react. All of us, at least most of us that consider ourselves PUA’s know damn well not to become reactive when girls shit test us and what not. I trust everyone understands how this is unfolding and why it would never happen to anyone reading this post, right? Good, I would hope so!

I calm him down, sit him at the bar, and I go over to the girls to find out exactly what went down and see if there is any hope of fixing this?! (Sadly I find out later the damage was done, and no words would have worked, and I know this, so I am working hard on changing her mood and her emotional state, not her mind) Remember, if you want to get anyone that’s being resistant, don’t try and change there mind, you must change there mood/emotion in order to get where you want to!

She tells me that he is being to pushy and he yelled at her after she said she was not going to have sex with him, and it all started when she called him aggressive! Come on man, what a weak shit test in the first place, and to fail the test the way he did, deserves a smack straight across the face!

Dudes, as I was talking to her about him, I felt this huge rush come over me, she was hott and she smelled so nice, FUCK I can’t believe this is happening!!!!

I calm her down a bit and explain to her he is not like this, and to be honest, he really isn’t! He is drunk and his ego was hurt… I ask her if I can take a stab at understand this whole picture:
“Up until now, you were having fun, you thought he/all of us are cool, you are attracted to him, he’s outgoing and he is making you laugh, and if he had played his cards right, he may have actually been able to spend the nite with you”? “Am I close”? She says to me, you are spot on! You need to teach him what you know, because he has no idea on how to get into my pants”…lolololol

Major validation to me, at least in my head I know I would have closed this if he wasn’t such a f-ing moron….

This post is long enough, I’ll spare you the rest of the nite…But I will tell you that I took his drunken sorry ass home, tail tucked between his legs and no pussy, at least not that nite…lol.

My girl and I both exchanged contact information with the New York hotties. I will prolly stay in touch with them as they will be visiting Detroit again shortly, and I’m sure I’ll be in New York this summer. And let’s not forget about my girl, she loves women as well!

When we dropped John’s drunken ass at home, her and I laughed about how the nite played out and how it would have been a great experiance to have a 5 some! Oh well, there's always tomorrow!

My nite with the New Yorkers may have not gone the way her and I wanted it to go, but how gives a fuck about that, at least the Detroit Lair got a small taste of AlexanderTheGreat, and more is to cum!

Later gators,

If anyone has a topic you would like me to discuss in detail, please drop me a note in the comment section and/or shoot me an email at alexanders.lifeskills@gmail.com

Detroit's Lair Meeting

What up people,

Just finished writing out my Lair talk…

February 16th I will be a guest speaker. I will primarily be speaking about style and sub-communications.

I will touch upon frames as well…

I am really excited about this opportunity. The Detroit scene has been a tad stagnant these days.

I have received positive feed back by some of the members, which led to me being invited to do a talk.

I will update on how it goes, as it should be a good one this time around! I am going to blow these dudes out of the water, as I will finish my talk with a lay report, and I will have my extremely hott girl-friend with me!

Detroit Rock City!

Making a first impression

What up playa's!

I just recently read a book, which I highly recommend called “Get Anyone To Do Anything” by David j. Lieberman, PH.D. It made it onto New York Times Bestseller list!

Perhaps some of you have read it. It’s an easy read and has a wealth of information for all PUA’s regardless of your skill level. It’s a book on how to control and influence every situation you find yourself in! It talks about and gives detail descriptions how to use secret psychological tricks…

One particular chapter I found interesting as I use it on every set I approach, In fact, I use this technique all day and every day.

Smiling! ;-) J J

I can’t say enough about smiling and how it sub-communicates so many positive emotions and thoughts to someone else…I believe it to be one of the best tactic’s you could use when meeting ANYONE! Let’s break it down further, as smiling will communicate 4 major attributes about YOU! There is something called Primacy Effect: “It’s the process whereby our first impression of another person causes us to interpret his or her subsequent behavior in a manner consistent with first impressions”, which just means that our first impression of someone is crucial So, why handicap yourself by not doing something so easy and simply, like smiling? And don’t give me any bullshit, you are guilty of not smiling just about an hour ago when you ordered your latte from Starbucks…You probably threw some routine out and acted all different and cool, but I KNOW you forgot to smile! So, smiling conveys Confidence, Happiness, enthusiasm, acceptance…

· Confidence…We all wants to show confidence in set, or in any situation!
· Happiness… We always want to show beautiful women we are happy or in a good mood!
· Enthusiasm… What’s that saying, enthusiasm is contagious, hell yes it is!
· Acceptance… I love this one; it simply means you accept the person for who they are! Huge ice breaker, by smiling you show this person that “hey, I don’t know you yet, but I like what I see”!

Some people have better smiles than other. I know a dude that hates to smile, he thinks he looks retarded when he tries to show off those pearly whites, and on a sad note, he is right, he does look stuck on stupid…However, with a few adjustments and beliefs that he is genuinely a confident, happy, enthusiastic, and real person, his smile works every time!

Try spending the day smiling at everyone you see…smile at your co-workers, smile at your mom, smile at the hottie while waiting at a traffic light…You will get positive reactions, you have to, it LAW of nature and human existence!

Side note, I am happy to add the Captain himself, Mr. Captain Jack! I have added his link on my blog home page. For those of you how do not know who the good Captain is, please take a moment and visit his blog, as you will find more information and archives regarding game that should keep you busy for at least a day or two J. Of course for those of you who do know CJ, I need no more introductions.

By the way CJ, when are you going to release some new SNL FR’s, would like to read up on a couple or so…

Everyone, have a great week and weekend…Until next time…Later Gators!

Are you serious?

Damn, I can't believe my beloved Pat's lost? What a shame! My extended family is crying the blues this morning, as I am as well :-(...

Which brings me to a thought...The Pat's were great all year, right!? Even the best fall...

Over the weekend I was gaming, and gaming hard....Sets opened like butter...But, that one set, that one girl, that I wanted never went anywhere...

Turns out it was a set that would have gone nowhere, no matter what I did! The girl found out that her dad has had a internet porn problem, as well as her boyfriend fucking her younger sister!

The chick was having major issues, and the reason she was at the bar was to get drunk and get advise from close friends...I know all this because her cousin pulled me aside to explain! She also did say how nice I seemed!?

Like the Pat's, no matter what play they ran, no matter how hard they played, in the end it was not to be! Set's will go this way...Nothing is a 100%...Learn this and understand this...I believe knowing such things are a good way to stay out of your head!

You cannot control what others are feeling, what they say about you, and what they think about you! Just move on without batting an eye!

Oh don't forget to smile, as smiling will always make you feel better, it works for me!

SuperBowl Sunday & My Challenge!

Not sure about you guys, but I am JACKED for Superbowl Sunday!

Born and raised in Boston, Arlington Hts, MA to be exact. Lived there up until I was 15 years old, then moved to Detroit...

Ya think I'm rooting for The New England Pats? You can bet your left arm I am...and here, get this...The Pats are going to smoke NY...Bet the farm, bet everything you have...(I am kidding, however, it is a safe bet)!

Enjoy the Day, its going to be GREAT!

Side note, today is Friday Feb 1st. I have challenged myself to go out tonite and hook a hottie, and this hottie will spend Sunday afternoon with me! Lets see what I do....