Detroit Lair Talk complete with A “Naturals” drama!

Hey guys, hope all is well in PU land!

To all the people that attended the Detroit Lair Talk this past Saturday, I want to personally thank each of you for attending. I had a blast talking to all of you! It is my intention to help as much as I can. I am committed to providing the most up to date techniques and strategies out there! Believe me when I say, I want all of you to become better men, not only in pick up but in your daily lives! Stay tuned to my blog and schedule, as I will be announcing shortly my up-coming boot camp! This is sure to be a weekend you will not want to miss!

I have attached some pics. I also have video footage of the talk, once I get it back, I will post it here!

As promised, all you have to do is send me an email at alexanders.lifeskills@gmail.com Let me know that you attended, and I will give you a 20 minute free phone consultation with whatever sticking point you may have! (Please be patient, I am getting lots of requests, however, as promised, I WILL GET TO EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU)!!

So, my big debut went off with-out any problems! The feed back I received was excellent… my talk was entertaining and more importantly informative! I believe the live demo I did with my beautiful assistant will help many beginners understand the correct way to approach women of beauty and quality! I spoke about frames…sexual frames…force framing…cold reads…sub-communications…and one of my favorites, styles…
For those of you that may have thought my talk was a little advanced, I will stick to one topic next time around. I was advised that some of the Frame talk was a little over some peoples skill level. What a great motivator to give me a call and let me explain what you may have missed!

The amount of questions (quality questions) asked after my talk made me realize the apatite you all have in regards to social dynamics! Its very inspiring, this will make me work harder for all of you!

Now, for the drama most of you missed and for those of you who would like to hear what some “naturals” with big egos deal with when there set/s goes wrong, really wrong…Read on… :)

Some of the friends I spend time with outside of the community are what I consider or even what most consider being a “Natural”. Let me first explain my definition of a “Natural”. Goes something like this:
Always had women in his life.
Dating women came easy to them.
Understood (mostly on a sub-conscience level) how to make women laugh.
Understood that being needy or to aggressive or over confident would turn-off the ladies.
Good looks, dress well, and generally have money and/or a life!
Have an extensive social circle.
Very outgoing.

During my talk, my friend (John) was at the hotel lobby gaming a rather large mixed set. Turns out there were all part of a dance company from New York performing at one of the theaters in downtown Detroit (who says Detroit has no culture)?

He decided to bring her into the Lair Talk (which I apologize to everyone there) apparently he thought he was showing off! Fortunately, I was just getting done and they missed the entire thing (yea, nice friend I have, jerk).

When it was all said and done, I met him and my hottie at the lobby bar, which I confronted him on his behavior. He had a small attitude, but my frame was unshakeable that nite, I was flying high after my talk, feeling real good!

Meanwhile he had created all kinds of attraction with the two HB he managed to pull. When I had rolled up, they were totally intrigued with what I was doing and teaching. I gave them the shortest version possible (for now) and moved on with “let’s all grab a bite”

Now, I am going to fast-forward about an hour after meeting them. John, me, my-girl and two New York dancers head over across the street to one of my favorite strip-clubs! I was impressed that they wanted to go, and in fact, they also wanted to dance. I tried to get them a spot, but the manager said they need a stripper card or they would be fined! Oh well, I tried…At least they wanted to get naked!

Now, I understand the situation much better than my natural friend. I could tell what thier body language was saying, I knew they were having fun, and I could tell we had made them feel safe! We accomplished this thru major social proof, I know everyone at this hotel. I had a beautiful girl on my arm to begin with, and we had bounced them around the hotel and casino. At this point, all we had to do was not fuck it up!

John had dropped earlier “I am going to fuck you tonite”bomb to one of the girls! Once he had said it, I looked right at her to gage her reaction, and I could totally see it was on! He followed it by saying “oh I’m just kidding”…I tell him in front of the girls, “never say your kidding about such statements, as I wink and kino the hottie…Everyone laughed! John pipes up and says “was that from your lecture…ha ha ha” He was obviously trying to be funny or cute; actually he was annoying the FUCK out of me with his little jokes about the community. I kept telling him its low status to dog on your friends no matter what, and that the girls could tell he was being a little try hard…Of course that shit went in one ear and out the other ear!

We bounce to the stip club...

We are all sitting in the booth; it was a tight fit… My girl is all about 3-ways (I have not actually have gotten into one with her as of yet, but what a perfect opportunity)!

I could see he was getting drunk and his flare and charm or whatever was wearing off, as he had no other material to move forward with besides bragging about himself and/or dogging on “the community”… I once again pull him aside and say…”let me handle this, if we want to go back to there room, let me seed the bounce, JUST LET ME HANDLE it idiot, you’re getting drunk and you are not making any sense, you haven’t escalated correctly and if you were not a good looking guy you would have been blow out by now” And I was totally right, 100% correct, no question about it, NONE! And here’s why:

John to New York Dancer – hey babe, I like you, we should see each other!
NYD – what are you talking about? I already told you, I don’t live here and I fly out tomorrow!
John: Well, I like you and that’s why I bought you drinks and yada yada yada!
Me: I am thinking in my head “duuuuude, OMG you are totally fucking this up!
NYD – what? Just because you bought me a drink and invited us to hang with Alexander and his girl, I owe you something?
John: I want you, I want to kiss you, and I think he said something to the effect of wanting to have sex with her, for a second time, however this time, the tone was nothing like it was a couple hours ago…
NYD - I am not going to have sex with you, why are you being so aggressive and making us feel like we owe you something?
John – Yelling at her…”I am not aggressive, you’re crazy, what’s the matter with you”…on an on, until she almost started crying and got scared!

CAN YOU SAY F-ING IDOIT? I hope I don’t have to explain why you never want to behave like our friend John is behaving!

At this point, I pull him aside yet again, and I flat out say “have you lost your fucking mind”? Why are you fighting with these girls? Dude, it’s not her fault she called you aggressive…”Dude, you are being too much of a needy jerk, you’re drunk”!

I grab the attention of my girl and wink at her to smooth things over while I’m talking to John…I mean for the lov of anything holy, my girl is getting pissed to, because she wants to bounce to there hotel room as well! Think about it, it’s not funny anymore, it’s now getting stupid…two guys with THREE sexy ass women, and he’s f-ing the whole thing up, FOR ALL OF US!

He now starts blaming me for all of this????!!!?? The day before John and I were talking about a friend of ours and how he is able to pull all kinds of sexy momma’s with his aggressive style, he mis-understood what I was saying at the time and brought it back to me and my style of teaching? Basically he was making no sense. So now half the club is looking at him pointing his finger in my face and arguing with me= LOSERS! That’s how we must have looked like, complete idiots!
I could tell he was a little embarrassed and just didn’t know how to react. All of us, at least most of us that consider ourselves PUA’s know damn well not to become reactive when girls shit test us and what not. I trust everyone understands how this is unfolding and why it would never happen to anyone reading this post, right? Good, I would hope so!

I calm him down, sit him at the bar, and I go over to the girls to find out exactly what went down and see if there is any hope of fixing this?! (Sadly I find out later the damage was done, and no words would have worked, and I know this, so I am working hard on changing her mood and her emotional state, not her mind) Remember, if you want to get anyone that’s being resistant, don’t try and change there mind, you must change there mood/emotion in order to get where you want to!

She tells me that he is being to pushy and he yelled at her after she said she was not going to have sex with him, and it all started when she called him aggressive! Come on man, what a weak shit test in the first place, and to fail the test the way he did, deserves a smack straight across the face!

Dudes, as I was talking to her about him, I felt this huge rush come over me, she was hott and she smelled so nice, FUCK I can’t believe this is happening!!!!

I calm her down a bit and explain to her he is not like this, and to be honest, he really isn’t! He is drunk and his ego was hurt… I ask her if I can take a stab at understand this whole picture:
“Up until now, you were having fun, you thought he/all of us are cool, you are attracted to him, he’s outgoing and he is making you laugh, and if he had played his cards right, he may have actually been able to spend the nite with you”? “Am I close”? She says to me, you are spot on! You need to teach him what you know, because he has no idea on how to get into my pants”…lolololol

Major validation to me, at least in my head I know I would have closed this if he wasn’t such a f-ing moron….

This post is long enough, I’ll spare you the rest of the nite…But I will tell you that I took his drunken sorry ass home, tail tucked between his legs and no pussy, at least not that nite…lol.

My girl and I both exchanged contact information with the New York hotties. I will prolly stay in touch with them as they will be visiting Detroit again shortly, and I’m sure I’ll be in New York this summer. And let’s not forget about my girl, she loves women as well!

When we dropped John’s drunken ass at home, her and I laughed about how the nite played out and how it would have been a great experiance to have a 5 some! Oh well, there's always tomorrow!

My nite with the New Yorkers may have not gone the way her and I wanted it to go, but how gives a fuck about that, at least the Detroit Lair got a small taste of AlexanderTheGreat, and more is to cum!

Later gators,

If anyone has a topic you would like me to discuss in detail, please drop me a note in the comment section and/or shoot me an email at alexanders.lifeskills@gmail.com